efficacious: producing, or capable of producing, a desired effect.

Whenever you pursuit a goal in your life, you have to take steps towards your goal – into the right direction. To take this steps, you will need specific tools that enable you to do so. Not always you are able to walk the way through green grass under bright sunshine – those are the low-level goals, the low-hanging fruits, goals that you will achieve anyhow and that show few opportunities to grow.

To chase high-level goals that require a tremendous amount of growth, the question of how you will make your way is of vital importance. Will you go barefooted or ride the bike? Will you have to cross a river using a boat? How to cross the rapids without getting crushed into the rocks that endanger your life amid the river’s width? While these are metaphors, they easily translate into real-life situations where you have to decide well how you are going to proceed.

Doing a brainstorm on the possible options is highly recommended but this is the easy part – finding out what is possible. The hard part is to evaluate, which way is the one best suited to the situation. To judge the options, ask yourself the following questions:

• Is this way congruent with what I truly am?
• What will be the long-term ramifications of taking this option?
• How much will it cost me financially, physically and mentally to do so?
• Imagine being the best you can be, the perfect you: Would you still opt for this solution?

These questions empower you to get into touch with your inner self. They guide you to act authentic and train your vision – thinking about how your choices impact your life and the life of others is of tremendous power when pondering about possible solutions. Sure, murder can clean the way sometimes and it looks like a decent solution from a very short-term perspective but from a long-term perspective, the ramifications of this deed are far too grave to actually consider choosing it

Thinking about what you have to invest includes some risk-management as well. The more you put on the line, the more you can win – and the more you can lose. Still, sometimes a safer bet is still far more rewarding than a risky choice. It all depends on the situation and you have to judge it anew from case to case. Not only the finances are of importance. What good is a tool, if it empowers you financially but devours your physical energy and mental well-being? There are too many financially successful businessmen out there that suffer from burn-out syndrome – do yourself a favor and do not join them.

Finally, the imagination of your perfect self is a vision that enables you to look at problem and solution from an elevated perspective. It strengthens your internal congruence because with every choice congruent with the one of your perfect self you do one step further becoming this person. A promising outlook

Start tomorrow to judge your tools using these questions. Proceed to live a life in congruence with who you really are and want to be.

In love for life
Simon

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This posting is intended as a quasi-reply towards Vince DelMontes blog entry about Building the Body Women Want. Although I am of the opinion that Vince did a good job researching the topic and bringing his own experiences into the equation, I think that he still lacks some rather crucial points, when it comes to the correlation of having a muscular/athletic body and being successful in attracting and thereafter leading a successful and ultimately happy relationship.

Too much is too much

It is a great idea to acquire a physique that looks good from the standpoint of health and happiness in general. You are more likely to feel good in a body whose looks you like and are more likely to be healthy even high in age. But do not make the mistake of distorting perspectives. A great-looking body is not a guarantee to be healthy nor is it destined to make your happy. Women normally know that and do not only have a look at the physique of their counterpart alone. As for the physique, you have to find a good measurement of what is too much if you want to be regarded as attractive by most women – everyone getting close to looking like a bodybuilder ready to compete at stage will scare away most women with his look only – too much is too much. Looking lean and athletic, with a firm musculature that is fit to how your body is built will most likely score you the most points.

The source of happiness

Looking great does not imply being happy. If you are internally in conflict with what and who you are, you have no chance of acquiring happiness by means of training for looks only. You will put on a good amount of muscle and increase in size, you will shed body fat and look ripped, but still you are bound to feel unsatisfied when looking in the mirror – even if you are satisfied with how you look like, there are countless other problems that can cause you sadness. Do not become bound to the idea that training for a physique equates becoming happy, not even from the perspective that more muscle equals more women equals more sex equals more happiness.

True happiness always comes from within. If you are content with what and who you are and know where you are heading in life, you are likely to feel fulfilled and happy

As within so without

Women generally have a good sense for what they are confronted with and normally auto-check their counterpart for authenticity. If you radiate black clouds from the inside but act happy-go-lucky on the outside, showing off your great physique, women will most likely will label you as inauthentic and therefore avoid you – nothing good can come from someone who is not in alignment with himself, he is likely to drift off into depression or become aggressive – he is everything but in balance. If you want to score with the women, you do best by being who you are and radiating that you love who you are. Women know that if a man is in love with what he is, he is much better at truly loving her as what she truly is.

The power of resonance

It’s a fact that regardless of what I have written prior to this point, muscular and athletic men still score at women, even if they radiate black clouds and are incongruent in what they are. This does not prove my perspective wrong, because now resonance comes into play. Resonance is the law, that you attract what you emit. If you emit waves of (un)conscious thought that you have to look great on the outside, although you feel miserable on the inside, you will attract people that share your mind set. They will probably look great and are great to lead conversations with, seem lovable and sex is also far beyond okay – but as you proceed deeper down the minds of these individuals, you will most likely notice very soon that they face their very own identity crisis – they are internally incongruent and do not truly love themselves to the fullest – and are thereby unable to do the same with you.

This rule applies to everyone without exception. If you are subject to a case where this rule does not seem to apply, you either have not discovered the true thoughts of each other or already interally identify with a different mind set without noticing.

What women really want

The question “What do women really want” can therefore not be answered in general. It depends completely on the consciousness vibration the women emits – what does the woman identify herself with and hence attracts into her life by own choice? Women who are generally focused more on the outward aspects of a person may well fall for a breathtaking physique with no substance behind it. Others will look at the mental match more than on the physique. As a rule of thumb, it is a safe bet to have good chances when you both look good (lean, athletic) and are at perfect peace with who and what you are – you will attract women of the same kind and are far more likely to begin a fulfilling relationship. Looking good ultimately is only a side-effect of being at peace – if you truly love yourself, you will gravitate naturally towards keeping your body in shape just because it is worth the effort.

Conclusion

It is common sense, after all: Be yourself and nothing but yourself. This way, you will naturally look good and seem attractive to the women. Do not overcomplicate the matter – for most people it is hard enough to attain this state of mind altogether. If you feel that you are amongst them: Keep trying, you will get better.

In love for life

Simon

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